Foreplay may just very well be the most important part of a great sex life. Without foreplay many ideas & feelings would never come to the surface. For many women sex without foreplay can lead to a very unpleasant experience. Women, unlike men, usually require an extended period of stimulation through foreplay to achieve orgasm.We also feel foreplay is any couples best resource for learning about each others body, likes & dislikes. It is also a wonderful time to practice the communication skills you have learned from the other sections of this site & allows you both the time to try out many new ideas.Sex is not all intercourse & those who believe it is are as far from the truth as they can be. To put it in a semi-poetic reference foreplay is the climb up the mountainside to the orgasmic peak. In other words you'll never get to the top if you don't climb. Time spent in Foreplay is like finding all the pieces to the puzzle, the keys to unlock the mystery that is your partner's sexual desire. Why would anyone ignore the best opportunity to take themselves and their partner to new sexual peaks?
Learning the Lesson of the Turtle & the Hare
Great foreplay can be related to the old fable of the turtle & the hare. Slow & steady wins the race! Foreplay done correctly can enhance both partners overall sexual experience & orgasm. Adding in the "little touches" during foreplay can not only show your lover your interest in them & their pleasure, but also build a deeper & more passionate sexual experience for both of you. This can be especially true for men who take the time to "tend" to the needs and desires of your partner shows them you care. A woman sees these efforts by men as a "commitment" to their pleasure (and the relationship), and find it an incredible turn on psychologically. Having "their man" take the time to make sure their needs are fulfilled means so much more than great sex to a woman, it means commitment.
Start slowly with kisses & caresses, exploring your lovers body head to toe. I have one personal rule that I always try to use during foreplay. Your mouth & both hands should be doing something at all times. While kissing, let one hand "wander south" while the other caresses their upper body. 
With this approach you have the ability to give your lover many different sensations at one time. Instead of jumping straight to your lover's crotch, spend time on less frequently visited spots. Arms, legs, necks, ears, fingers, toes all should be explored in great length with your mouth. Ladies, take some time to read our Oral sex For Her Section & you guys should also read the Oral sex For Him Section. Both of these sections will steer you in the right direction concerning great oral sex. Not to be overlooked during foreplay is the caress. Using a combination of slight massage & light feather-like touches can drive anyone wild.
One that is almost always a crowd pleaser (not literally) is the feather-light fingernail scrape. Turning your hand over & very, very lightly trace patterns or circles on your lovers body with your fingertips or nails. It's guaranteed to send shivers up & down their body. The key here is to build up the passion slowly at first & then more aggressive as you both shoot for the stars. Try to follow your lovers signals & make sure you give them as much foreplay as they can take. For you guys who feel you just don't last long enough during intercourse this is a wonderful technique. By spending time arousing your lover & possibly bringing her to orgasm through masturbation or oral sex, you have enhanced the entire experience for her.
I personally prefer to bring my lover to several orgasms before intercourse. Following this plan will show your lover that their pleasure is number one with you, & you will never regret it.
Variety IS the Spice of Life (& Sex)
Throughout your exploring of foreplay make sure you try different things & ideas. Toys are a wonderful tool to raise your foreplay to a new level. You should also try to use Massage as a new idea for foreplay. Changing ideas from time to time can really rev things up in bed & will undoubtedly lead you to new pleasures, some that you may have never experienced before. If you show your lover that you are committed to their pleasure & are willing to try new things to please them you will reap the rewards ten fold & bring both of you closer together. Never put your pleasure before your lovers. Try to work to the point where your goal is to send them to new heights every time you have sex. It's a winning idea.........for both of you!
Judy
