Sex secret #1

If he's hooking up with you, he loves your bod. Here's a head-scratcher: When a man gets a woman in bed, it's a huge ego boost for him ("Yeah, score!"). Yet at the same time, we chicks will be obsessing in the sack about our fat rolls and the way our thighs spread out when we're on our backs. Well, all that sex stress adds up to one thing: nooky that's neurotic and no fun.

"Poor body image and refusing to believe your partner when he says he loves your figure will hurt your sex life," says sexologist Lilka Areton, Ph.D. Think about it: The more you strategically hide yourself under the sheet or say things like "I'm so bloated" or "I haven't shaved in days," the more he'll think, Jesus, this chick has issues, and become less aroused. Plus, when you're self-conscious, there's no way to enjoy all the love he's lavishing on you (which, hello, is the whole point of the game). That's why, if you really want to rock the box springs, loosen up and let him ogle away during foreplay.

Sex is as much about the visuals as it is the physical pleasure for a guy; it's like there's something connecting his eyeballs to his package. So don't be shy about putting on a show. As you undress, slide one bra strap down your shoulder and give him a smoldering upward gaze, which lets him know that you're watching him watch you.

Judy